‘Love your work‘, I have been hearing this for more than three decades now. My actual experience is different. Too much attachment to work, for that matter to anything leads to stress and sub-optimal outcomes. When my daughter got married, when my 1 year old grandson went back to Bangalore after staying with us for a couple of months, when I had to leave a position where I was very successful in order to move to a higher position, when I had to transfer my star performer whom I groomed for success to the next higher position where he is going to report to someone else, I felt the same pain, I felt more sadness than joy. Everything we nurture closely will grow, and at some point in time, will leave us to grow further. Or, is it just the opposite?. We must learn to be attached in a detached way for growth of all involved. A kind of detached attachment. Sometimes I get too much obsessed with my work and I get very possessive about the product. I get really upset even with the very thought of someone else trying to change it from the way I perceived it. Learning and practicing ‘Detached attachment’ is the key to growth of the product and the owners. Everything and everybody must grow and flourish, and what took us till here, may not take us further. If we latch on to past, the future will elude us. Applicable to all passionate people, irrespective of whether you are an entrepreneur, architect, product owner, research associate, husband, wife, Dad, Mother…the pain of handing over something closer to your heart hurts, and at the same time it is very much required for growth. Learning to love everything in a detached manner, with the awareness that this also must pass away, to live up to the Grand plan our creator have for us and knowing that he is the only constant allows us to approach such situations very normally. Live life to Love, lead and leave.
I dedicate this to the book worms among us 🙂