Today is Rose’s first day at graduation. My visit to the college campus for the first time as a parent, made me experience unbridled nervousness. For the first time I experienced the ubiquitous possibilities, choices available to a teenager growing up in a bubbling city. For the first time I experienced an uncanny resemblance of my communication to her to the wordings of the letter my Dad wrote to me twenty four years ago, about the choices one have as a teenager and the importance of focusing on knowledge gaining as the priority.
During all my workshops and lectures, I stress on the importance of playing on the strengths of individuals. Now I am enacting it in my personal life as well. That could be the reason why I felt a sense of pride in encouraing her to pursue the subject of her strength – ‘communicative english’ for her graduation, , to the dismay of many of her well wishers, who hails from a land which gives top priority to engineering and medical professions (may be true with all growing economies).
The decision is already proving right. I am awake at 4.a.m typing this. All of us (Rose, Jessy and Me) are really optimistic about the possibility of creating a positive Indian citizen, who will excel in her chosen field and life as well. After a very long time, I am very conscious about the words I choose, the punctuations and the grammer. After a long time, I am trying to improve my english language vocabulary. And finally this is the moment I really started communicating with Rose from an adult – adult ego state (till now it was always the parent or the child in me communicating to the child in her), and at times I am challenged about my mediocre command over the ‘English’ language !, and I take up the challenge, becuase it is indeed coming from a person who is better than me in that department, and wish her all success to be better than me in all positive endevours of her’s.