life style innovation !

I just landed back to my home after a 15 days trip. It is nice to be back after a 15 days of training spree. I am just mastering the art of getting the maximum ROI from the ipod i bought recently. I did not buy it for the usefulness of it, but for the beauty of it. I am really bowled over by the vision of Apple ” We want to be the thin line between art and technology”, which is reflected in all their products.

Now I am trying to find out some meaning for my investment. I am slowly  mastereing the art of downloading you-tube videos on to my ipod, file types and conversions so that I can watch them while travelling. This should definitely improve my productivity as I will not be spending hours together watching videos  when I am at work.

After starting my own company, I have not attended many training programs. This ipod can definitely act as a class room training substitute.

I think this is enough from a Rs. 13,000 investment on a ipod classic 80 GB !.

I am at peace with myself now. Immediately after buying it, I felt as if I made a wrong buy – if it is just for listening to music, which I dont do very often. If I can use it for learning and updating my knowledge, while physically active, then I have all reasons to be happy and I am HAPPY!


Definitions !!! Courtesy Alice :-)


School: A place where Papa pays and Son plays.

Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that you can die Rich.

Nurse: A person who wakes u up to give you sleeping pills.

Marriage: It’s an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree and a woman gains her masters.

Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by feminine waterpower.

Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through ‘the minds of either’

Conference: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.

Compromise: The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.

Dictionary: A place where success comes before work.

Conference Room: A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and everybody disagrees later on.

Father: A banker provided by nature. Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.

Politician: One who shakes your hand before elections and your Confidence after.

 Doctor: A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills.

Classic: Books, which people praise, but do not read.

Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight.

Office: A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.

Yawn: The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.

Etc.: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you actually do.

Committee: Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to decide that nothing can be done together.

Experience: The name men give to their mistakes.

Atom Bomb: An invention to end all inventions.

Philosopher: A fool who torments himself during life, to be wise after death

Emotional infrastructure – Businesses learning from families

Emotional Infrastructure (EI)  – Businesses learning from the family

How do you build a great, long lasting company (team), where the leader knows how to create a sense of loyalty and passion in their employees?. Two Indians, Subrato Bagchi and Vijay Govindarajan  have come out with a novel ground breaking theory that is totally revolutionary.  They have come out with a study, as yet unpublished , called the ‘Emotionally bonded organization: Why emotional infrastructure matters and How leaders can build it.’

They believe that the ties that bind people to organizations at the emotional level are the hardest to destroy and are potentially some of the greatest assets of organizations.  Emotional infrastructure (EI) are the factors that motivate people to do their best for the corporate good.

It is a style of leadership that makes employees feel such a level of passion that they want to make personal sacrifices for the good of the company. The idea is borrowed from families.  The components of EI;

  1.  First is leadership proximity. Family leaders whether father, mother, uncle or grandfather are close to the family members. They call it as on-demand leadership.  Just as leaders in a family are available on demand, so should leaders in an organization make themselves available without questioning reason. And leadership has to appear as and when demanded by those who are being led. We are talking about servant leadership.
  2. The second is rituals. All families have rituals, which may vary from communities to communities and in cultures. The powerful thing about rituals is that they carry or convey ideas from one generation to another. So a leader in a company should create and sustain meaningful rituals that create the feeling of a family for employees.
  3. The third is non stop communication. Families communicate without any reason. In non stop communication you connect with a person instantly when there is need to connect. The instant connectivity is so valuable in organizations but is exactly the opposite there.

 For more information on this subject, refer to City times, March 10, 2008

Jokes from PAul :-)

Two priests decided to go to Hawaii on vacation.
They were determined to make this a real vacation by not wearing anything
that would identify them as clergy.
As soon as the plane landed they headed for a store and bought some really
outrageous shorts, shirts, sandals, sunglasses, etc.

 The next morning they went to the beach dressed in their ‘tourist’ garb.

They were sitting on beach chairs,enjoying a drink, the sunshine and the
scenery when a ” drop dead gorgeous” blonde in a topless bikini came
walking straight towards them.  They could not help but stare.

 As the blonde passed them she smiled and said “Good Morning, Father ~
GoodMorning, Father,” nodding and addressing each of them individually, then
she passed on by. They were both stunned.  How in the world did she know
they were priests ? 

So the next day, they went back to the store and bought even more outrageous

These were so loud you could hear them before you even saw them !

Once again, in their new attire, they settled down in their chairs to enjoy
the sunshine. 

After a little while, the same gorgeous blonde, wearing a different coloured
topless bikini, taking her sweet time, came walking toward them. 

Again she nodded at each of them, saidgood morning, Father ~ Goodmorning,
Father,” and started to walk away.
One of the priests couldn’t stand it any longer and said, “Just a minute,
young lady.”
“Yes, Father ?”

“We are priests and proud of it, but I have to know, how in the world do you
know we are priests, dressed as we are ?”

She replied,

“Father, it’s me,  Sister Kathleen !”

Wherever you Go and whatever you Do….

I am at this internet cafe, after my morning walk, and this song is played here ‘Wherever you go and whatever you do, I will be always with you……’. A very nice one. Just before this I read the Bible, and the message came to me was ‘ If Iam with you, who can be against you’. Through this song, is GOD reassuring me of his protection!.

Even when spirituality is a private affair, if I dont acknowledge it as an integral part of me, I will not be honest to myself. Very often my best partner in business is my God. When my order book is empty, I kneel down and pray – and here comes loads of orders, filling up my schedules. When I dont have money, I just make a donation, and it comes back in double and triple. I am not talking of passive spirituality. I am talking of active spirituality that works day to day !. It helps one to be happy, lighthearted, optimistic, energetic and peaceful !.

A chat with Dr.Shetty : Thank You Paulson for sending this to me

A chat with Dr.Devi Shetty, Narayana Hrudayalaya (Heart Specialist) Bangalore was arranged by WIPRO for its employees.
The transcript of the chat is given below. Useful for everyone.

Qn: What are the thumb rules for a layman to take care of his heart?

1. Diet – Less of carbohydrate, more of protein, less oil
2. Exercise – Half an hour’s walk, at least five days a week; avoid lifts and avoid sitting for a longtime
3. Quit smoking
4. Control weight
5. Control blood pressure and sugar

Qn: Is eating non-veg food (fish) good for the heart?

Ans: No

Qn: It’s still a grave shock to hear that some apparently healthy person
gets a cardiac arrest. How do we understand it in perspective?

Ans: This is called silent attack; that is why we recommend everyone past the age of 30 to undergo routine health checkups.

Qn: Are heart diseases hereditary?

Ans: Yes

Qn: What are the ways in which the heart is stressed? What practices do you suggest to de-stress?

Ans: Change your attitude towards life. Do not look for perfection in everything in life.

Qn: Is walking better than jogging or is more intensive exercise required to keep a healthy heart?

Ans: Walking is better than jogging since jogging leads to early fatigue and injury to joints

Qn: You have done so much for the poor and needy. What has inspired you to do so?

Ans: Mother Theresa , who was my patient

Qn: Can people with low blood pressure suffer heart diseases?

Ans: Extremely rare

Qn: Does cholesterol accumulates right from an early age
(I’m currently only 22) or do you have to worry about it only after you are above 30 years of age?

Ans: Cholesterol accumulates from childhood.

Qn: How do irregular eating habits affect the heart ?

Ans: You tend to eat junk food when the habits are irregular and your body’s enzyme release for digestion gets confused.

Qn: How can I control cholesterol content without using medicines?

Ans: Control diet, walk and eat walnut.

Qn: Can yoga prevent heart ailments?

Ans: Yoga helps.

Qn: Which is the best and worst food for the heart?

Ans: Fruits and vegetables are the best and the worst is oil.

Qn: Which oil is better – groundnut, sunflower, olive?

Ans: All oils are bad .

Qn: What is the routine checkup one should go through? Is there any specific test?

Ans: Routine blood test to ensure sugar, cholesterol is ok. Check BP, Treadmill test after an echo.

Qn: What are the first aid steps to be taken on a heart attack?

Ans: Help the person into a sleeping position , place an aspirin tablet under the tongue with a sorbitrate tablet if available, and rush him to a coronary care unit since the maximum casualty takes place within the first hour.

Qn: How do you differentiate between pain caused by a heart attack and that caused due to gastric trouble?

Ans: Extremely difficult without ECG.

Qn: What is the main cause of a steep increase in heart problems amongst youngsters? I see people of about 30-40 yrs of age having heart attacks and serious heart problems.

Ans: Increased awareness has increased incidents. Also, edentary lifestyles, smoking, junk food, lack of exercise in a country where people are genetically three times more vulnerable for heart attacks than Europeans and Americans.

Qn: Is it possible for a person to have BP outside the normal range of 120/80 and yet be perfectly healthy?

Ans: Yes.

Qn: Marriages within close relatives can lead to heart problems for the child. Is it true?

Ans : Yes, co-sanguinity leads to congenital abnormalities and you may not have a software engineer as a child

Qn: Many of us have an irregular daily routine and many a times we have to stay late nights in office. Does this affect our heart ? What precautions would you recommend?

Ans : When you are young, nature protects you against all these irregularities. However, as you grow older, respect the biological clock.

Qn: Will taking anti-hypertensive drugs cause some other complications (short / long term)?

Ans : Yes, most drugs have some side effects. However, modern anti-hypertensive drugs are extremely safe.

Qn: Will consuming more coffee/tea lead to heart attacks?

Ans : No.

Qn: Are asthma patients more prone to heart disease?

Ans : No.

Qn: How would you define junk food?

Ans : Fried food like Kentucky , McDonalds , samosas, and even masala dosas.

Qn: You mentioned that Indians are three times more vulnerable. What is the reason for this, as Europeans and Americans also eat a lot of junk food?

Ans: Every race is vulnerable to some disease and unfortunately, Indians are vulnerable for the most expensive disease.

Qn: Does consuming bananas help reduce hypertension?

Ans : No.

Qn: Can a person help himself during a heart attack (Because we see a lot of forwarded emails on this)?

Ans : Yes. Lie down comfortably and put an aspirin tablet of any description under the tongue and ask someone to take you to the nearest coronary care unit without any delay and do not wait for the ambulance since most of the time, the ambulance does not turn up.

Qn: Do, in any way, low white blood cells and low hemoglobin count lead to heart problems?

Ans : No. But it is ideal to have normal hemoglobin level to increase your exercise capacity.

Qn: Sometimes, due to the hectic schedule we are not able to exercise. So, does walking while doing daily chores at home or climbing the stairs in the house, work as a substitute for exercise?

Ans : Certainly. Avoid sitting continuously for more than half an hour and even the act of getting out of the chair and going to another chair and sitting helps a lot.

Qn: Is there a relation between heart problems and blood sugar?

Ans: Yes. A strong relationship since diabetics are more vulnerable to heart attacks than non-diabetics.

Qn: What are the things one needs to take care of after a heart operation?

Ans : Diet, exercise, drugs on time , Control cholesterol, BP, weight..

Qn: Are people working on night shifts more vulnerable to heart disease when compared to day shift workers?

Ans : No.

Qn: What are the modern anti-hypertensive drugs?

Ans : There are hundreds of drugs and your doctor will chose the right combination for your problem, but my suggestion is to avoid the drugs and go for natural ways of controlling blood pressure by walk, diet to
reduce weight and changing attitudes towards lifestyles.

Qn: Does dispirin or similar headache pills increase the risk of heart attacks?

Ans : No.

Qn: Why is the rate of heart attacks more in men than in women?

Ans : Nature protects women till the age of 45.

Qn: How can one keep the heart in a good condition?

Ans : Eat a healthy diet, avoid junk food, exercise everyday, do not smoke and, go for health checkup s if you are past the age of 30 ( once in six months recommended) …


Aby why can’t you become a ‘SUCCESS’ coach?

During my last project management workshop, one of the participants asked me this question. My immediate reaction was ‘I  dont rate myself as a very successful person, then how can I coach others?’. Then I asked myself this question… Am I successful?.

I am successful than many and at the same time ‘less successful’ than many :-). What are the stuff, that make me think that I am successful?

  • Family – Despite many roller coaster rides, thank God and my wife, My family is still intact. When I look around at the very successful people of this era, for majority of them, their family is intact. Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Narayana Murthy, Anil Ambani, Mukesh Ambani, Ashok Soota, Sharuk Khan, Amtabh Bachan, Sachin Tendulkar,…..the list goes on…their families are intact. From these living examples, I conclude that for every successful man, there is an intact family behind him/her. In that measure, I am reasonably blessed.
  • Health – Most of the successful men have reasonably good health. Thank GOD, my health as of today is okay, despite me neglecting it to the core. This is a high risk area for me…and many IT professionals. Need to focus better.
  • Contribution factor : The ability to contribute (preventing entropy). I am successful in maintaining my ability to contribute to my chosen field by constantly upgrading my knowledge.
  • Child like enthusiasm : Most of the successful guys have a child like enthusiasm about life itself ( I think I have this)
  • Money : Thank God, I have sufficient money to see me through life. I may not have a surplus of it, and I am better than many.

Why do I rate myself less successful than many others?

I have not defined ‘SUCCESS’ yet !. Even now, for me ‘SUCCESS’ is about having things which I dont possess already. I think my definition success itself is wrong.

When I see somebody flying First class, when I fly business class  I get a feeling of lack of success !. The same feeling crops up again and again when;

  • Someone drives a better car than the one I have
  • Someone has a better house than mine
  • Someone has a better mobile phone than mine
  • Some one has more wealth than me
  • Some one has a better physique than me

I am making a fool out of me, by seeing just one dimension of these lives. Always I am going to see someone having something better than what I have. This is a never ending story. It is a very wrong perception of success. There can be many like me, who has fallen into this trap.

The moment I realize that this thinking itself is wrong, I am successful !. Thanks to blogging. This blog entry makes me think that ‘I AM SUCCESSFUL’ !  I am Happy !

My contribution to “equal education opportunities”

At last I decided to publish my project management book as an e-book under creative commons licence, which enables anyone to download it and distribute it for non commercial activities. The e-book series titles ‘myPmguide’ covers the entire project management body of knowledge and can be downloaded free from

Happy reading and Learning !

Abrachan Pudusserry PMP,Prince2,CSM