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The Parable of the Talents is a story told by Jesus in the Gospel of Luke (19:11-27). The parable is about a man who goes on a journey and entrusts his wealth to his servants, giving each of them a certain number of talents (a unit of currency in ancient times). To one servant, he gives five talents, to another he gives two talents, and to another he gives one talent, according to their ability.
The servant with five talents invests his money and earns five more talents, bringing his total to ten. The servant with two talents also invests his money and earns two more talents, bringing his total to four. However, the servant with one talent buried his money in the ground and did not invest it.
When the master returns from his journey, he asks his servants to give an account of what they did with his money. The servant with five talents presents his ten talents and is praised by the master for being faithful and wise. The servant with two talents presents his four talents and is also praised for his faithfulness and wisdom. But the servant with one talent presents only the one talent that he buried in the ground. The master rebukes him for being lazy and wicked, and takes away his talent and gives it to the servant with ten talents.
The lesson of the parable is that God has given us gifts and talents, and we are called to use them wisely and faithfully to serve Him. We will be held accountable for what we do with what God has given us, and those who use their talents well will be rewarded, while those who do not will be punished.
Before the pandemic, it was all working from office. Then came working from home…and then hybrid models…and I am getting more and more convinced about the fact that ‘Work’ is more important than from where you work on it. If it is engaging work, one it does not really matter whether you work from home or office. Then that is utopian. Always we get a mixture of engaging and not so engaging work to be completed. Stephen Covey in his book first break all rules segregated work into;
When I work from home, I often make errors in judging about ‘Importance of work’. I wrongly judge ‘Importance’. I mistake enjoyable work as important work. When I work from home alone, I abandon many things after putting in many hours or days of work on them. I need people around me to vet my ideas before investing on them heavily. I mean, those informal discussions. That is something I totally miss, when I work from home. These informal discussions cannot be replaced by formal scheduled meetings which lacks spontaniaty. I need professional people around me to discuss and validate my ideas and their views before classifying them as either ‘Important’ or ‘Not important’.
Before you ask anything, believe that you already received it. If you have faith as big s the mustard seed (which is the smallest of seeds) and if you ask the mountain to move from here, it will. Optimism is the key. In the midst of problems, where can one find optimism?. The key to optimism is preperation or in other words doing ones homework properly before jumping into it helps us to be confident of success.
Beauty of slow life..having time to enjoy every new leaf that sprouts out..witnessing life and its wonders..the new has come..yet the old has not faded away. They support the new..like a new bright day of our life…no yesterday, no tomorrow, just today, just now..life is beautiful.
He has no name. He is a street dog whom I meet always every day amidst my cycling jaunts in the mornings. Over the years we have developed a very unconditional liking for each other, except his expectation of parley G biscuits. However hungry he is, he eats only this particular brand. A brand conscious street dog.
There begins my inner conflicts. Because there are so many dogs on the street the government and the localities do not support the act of feeding street dogs.
‘Can I get the screenshot of the Digital PMO dash board along with the screen shots of the drill downs…?’ I asked the new trainee who is getting trained on the Wrench Smart Project. I wanted them to be included in my next blog about digital PMO (DPMO). Before the trainee understood my requirements fully, Shabna, the seasoned domain expert pitched in offering me help. Dileep our data scientist overheard the discussion, and said all these are readily available in the video made last week. He sent me the links within 5 minutes. A job, which would have taken hours of effort by my first contact got done within 10 minutes. Really convinced about the power of Osmotic Communication.
Another colleague from the sales Khamis, was watching all these and out of my excitement of witnessing the power of osmotic communication at the workplace, I explained to him about how he can try concepts like Management by Wandering Around (MBWA), ADKAR Model, Osmotic communication and the ‘T’ shaped competency model etc.
Mentoring by Wandering Around outside Wrench Academy …
The ADKAR model is a change management framework that is used to help individuals and organizations effectively manage change. It was developed by Prosci, a leading provider of change management resources and training.
ADKAR stands for:
The ADKAR model is designed to be a practical and straightforward tool for change management. By focusing on the specific needs and challenges of individuals during a change initiative, the model aims to increase the likelihood of successful change implementation.
In professional writing, every article has a goal / purpose to achieve. Very often we spend lot of time thinking about the structure of the article. Can we leverage the ADKAR model to base the structure of the article by incorporating the contents of the ADKAR model into the article template;
I am super excited with the opportunities arising out of the application of artificial intelligence in project management. Chat GPT acted as a trigger towards this. An eye opener to every one of the need to re-invent their work with the help of AI.
I like New ‘X’ where ‘X’ can take values like gadgets, friendships, knowledge, software, concepts, insigts, ideas, oppotunities and what not ….and Chat GPT is not an exception. I am proud to say that I am one of the early adopters of Chat GPT. As my friend & sometimes mentor Mr.Varghese Daniel of Wrench says, Chat GPT will take care of everything past and now we can focus on present and future, especially in solving problems than serving gyan. I fully agree with this, and like any other professionals makes me think about avenues where it can be leveraged to offer smarter solutions to current problems.
Being a project management domain expert, I am relieved of the fact that there is no need now to explain the knowns of project management which are already available in the public domain as bodies of knowledge. Chat GPT can easily summarise it in the most readerfriendly fashion. That takes away lot of monotony from my profession and provides room to think afresh to keep adding value post the Chat GPT release. When one gain experience, it becomes very monotonous to start explaining from known, knowns of project management like what is project, program, pmo, portfolio, critical bath, earned value management etc… At the same time, it is more and more interesting and rewarding to focus on the known unknowns….which is more on the solution space…. We all know that these problems or challenges exist, and the key is on ‘how to solve / leverage and make the owners, contractors and users life easier and better.
For example, with chat GPT taking away the need to explain the basics and knowns, one can move on to more interesting topics like how artificial intelligence can help project managers to manage projects better….I asked Chat GPT the same question…and here is the answer….
How can artificial intelligence help project managers to manage their projects better?
Artificial intelligence (AI) has the potential to significantly enhance the capabilities of project managers and improve the efficiency of project management processes. Here are some ways AI can help project managers manage their projects better:
In conclusion, AI has the potential to greatly enhance the capabilities of project managers and improve the efficiency of project management processes.
How can chat GPT help project managers to manage projects better?
As a language model developed by OpenAI, ChatGPT can help project managers manage their projects better in several ways:
In summary, ChatGPT can provide project managers with a range of support and assistance that can help them manage their projects more efficiently and effectively.
How can one start using chat GPT?
To start using ChatGPT, you can follow these steps:
In conclusion, starting to use ChatGPT involves choosing a platform, registering and obtaining an API key, integrating the API key, defining your use case, developing your application, and testing and optimizing the implementation.
That is a handful of exciting opportunities to connect more dots to the latest dot ‘Chat GPT’
Thank you almighty Lord and You for making my 2022 meaningful and peaceful. When I retrospect over year 2022 I realise that what really matters are a few things like family, friends, resources, health, optimism, grateful living and some silly things we enjoy doing..#lifeisbeautiful #loveyouzindagi
Here are my year 2022 retrospectives….
My siblings, cousins, friends, extended family, doctors, nurses, priests, colleagues, customers, business associates…I am grateful to you all…wish you a very happy and prosperous new year 2023
Every project is a journey. It is not a race. That’s why progressive elaboration is identified as one of the key characteristics of projects. While reaching the goal is important, it is more important to enjoy the journey. In fact, if you enjoy the journey, you will exceed all expectations. Then that calls for a disruption of the conventional mindset of constant focus on goal.
Recently one of my agile workshop participants asked me this question ‘What is good velocity?’
That was a very simple yet profound question. That made me think twice before answering. Is there something like a pre-defined good velocity for a greenfield project?. There is nothing like a good velocity. The focus is on consistent velocity which can be maintained across the journey.
Velocity is the productivity of the previous sprint. Nothing more, nothing less. As long as you do better than or equal to yesterday’s output.”, that is good enough. Enjoy the journey, that is more important than blind focus on goals.When all the cylinders are finetuned and fired, that is the best you can do. Accept it. Keep focussing on the motivation / enjoyment factor. ‘A dream is not something you see when you sleep, it is something that keeps you awake’. Thanks to Late Dr. Abdul Kalam. It is all about planting that dream, that will keep the team awake, not just You alone. 🙂
Mixing agile, project management, cycling and photography. Connecting the dots and creating new dots to connect. I call it as pleasure with purpose 😀
One of the clicks from my cycling tour of the Kadamakkudy Islands to make the Kadamakkudy Guide, a travellers guide to Kadamakkudy Islands.
Kadamakkudy just reminds me of the fact that there is quite more to do in life than the routine eat, work, sleep cycle. There lies the whole world to explore. Do it when you can do it. Life is precious. Life is beautiful. It is more than the eat, work, sleep, eat cycle.
I am fond of cycling to Kadamakkudy Islands, which is located hardly five kilometers from my home. A 10 km ride in the morning helps me to start the day at a positive note. I come back and blog about Kadamakkudy Islands. That is my humble attempt to put Kadamakkudy Islands on the tourist map of Kerala, if not India and the World. Started this blog of Kadamakkudy around 10 years back, when Kadamakkudy was not at all popular as a tourist destination. To know more about Kadamakkudy, visit my blog of Kadamakkudy
Teaching project management from the year 2005, till now and continuing…Not becuase that is the one I enjoy the most, but becuase that is the only one skill of mine others are willing to pay for. So, what I have done is to make me redundant by compiling my knowledge in the form of a guide called PMdistilledGuide which is published under creative commons. That mean, anyone can use it free of cost. This guide has 10 modules. Each module will take approximately 5 hours of your time to complete.
This is a time tested material, which helped many to master professional project management easily. There are also many who relied only on this guide to prepare for their PMP certification. Most important aspect is, they are not that dependent on me for preperation. As of now it is available online. The physical print will happen, when I am fully satisfied with the content and presentation. That is going to take some time becuase I am my biggest critique. Right now, I call it as a Minimum Viable Product (MVP) for all those;
Go to PMdistilledGuide
While in a bookstore I came across a book on forest bathing. What is forest bathing?. It is about spending time in the forest with trees. This exercise has reported many benefits including better immunity system and has its origins in Japan. Today morning I made it a point to spend some time among the greenery at the backyard in a meditative mode.. asking the question who am I really?. Even if it is too early to judge this exercises benefits..there is definitely a feel good factor associated with it…
1. There is beauty and ugliness in this world. Focus on the beauty.
2. Nothing is permanently beautiful nor ugly. It all depends on the day and the light in which we see it.
3. We will not be able to spot the beauty in ordinary things without a humble and pure heart.
4. Right tools and techniques helps to some extent, but the subject is more important. The best equipment is the one you have at hand at the moment.
5. Patience and timing, the ability to wait for the right moment is very important.
6. Learn and practice continuously. It is all about trying again and again. It is about viewer experience.
7. Composing photographs helps us to focus on the subject completely, which we would have ignored otherwise.
8. Capturing nature is like instant meditation. we end up adoring the creator for the splendid creations.
9. Street and portrait photography helps to mingle with strangers, make new friends and to engage them in conversations thus practice active listening.
10. Of all the creations, humans are the most beautiful. Any person with a glow in his eyes is irresistible.
Please comment the life lessons you learned from your photography. That will make it very interesting.
Recently I could witness the performance appraisals of a fast growing medium size organization in a detached manner. As usual, some were happy for a while where as some others are unhappy and disillusioned. In a nutshell, tension, frustration, stress …lots of these emotions were in the air as usual. As a seasoned professional with more than thirty years of corporate experience, here are some simple and practical tips to deconstruct the traditional performance appraisals into performance Up-raisals.
Instead of re-inventing the wheel, let us build around the the globally accepted Q12 survey questions by Gallop as the yardstick for workplace health. Getting a high score on the Q12 survey by all team members is the dream of every manager or team leader. According to Gallop, an average score of 4.5 and above by your team members is an indication of the health of the work environment you have created for your team. Remember the famous saying “People join organizations and leave managers”. Remember the fact that for every employee, the immediate boss is the true representation of the organization. So, as a manager or team lead, if your team is scoring high on these 12 questions, you can be sure that you are in the right path as a boss and you are doing things right.
When that is the case, managers can proactively re-define their approach to team management in such a way to build up the average score. To be honest with you, this approach helped me to re-build a team which was at the point of disintegration in the past.
Q12 survey element | Proactive management tips for the manager / team lead |
1) I know what is expected of me at work. | 1. Spend more time in defining measurable goals. 2. Define the roles and responsibilities very clearly 3. Define the ground rules very clearly |
2) I have the materials and equipment I need to do my work right. | 1. Proactive resource planning and budgeting 2. Negotiation skills |
3) At work, I have the opportunity to do what I do best every day. | 1. Work allocation based on the strengths of people 2. Self organizing teams 3. Work volunteering |
4) In the last seven days, I have received recognition or praise for doing good work. | 1. Creating a culture of appreciation 2. Leading it by example 3. Developing servant leadership 4. De-linking appreciation and suggestions for improvement |
5) My supervisor, or someone at work, seems to care about me as a person. | 1. Have formal 121 meetings with team members where project issues and performance issues are not discussed. Instead focus on career aspirations, goals, feedback 2. Active listening 3. Strong faith in the fact that you are only as good as your team. You are dependent on your team than the team members dependency on you |
6) There is someone at work who encourages my development. | 1. Formal training 2. Buddy programs 3. Progress monitoring outside the regular performance appraisal meetings |
7) At work my opinions seem to count | 1. Meeting norms 2. Active listening 3. Maturity to appreciate disagreements 4. Creating equal opportunities / environment for everyone to talk fearlessly 5. Elimination of halos |
8) The mission or purpose of my company makes me feel my job is important. | 1. Articulation of work and it’s connection to the organizations goals 2. Effective communication |
9) My associates or fellow employees are committed to doing quality work. | 1. Transparency of work progress and ownership 2. Daily team meetings 3. Periodic team retrospectives |
10) I have a best friend at work | 1. Team building activities 2. Buddy programs |
11) In the last six months, someone at work has talked to me about my progress. | 1. Periodic formal 121 meetings with employees (outside the performance appraisal meetings) to assess progress and mutually agree on improvement measures |
12) This last year, I have had opportunities at work to learn and grow. | When the 11 points above are taken care of, the 12th one will happen automatically. |
As managers we are only as good as their teams. Without good team, we cannot accomplish much. People join organizations and leave managers. I have also seen situations where people follow great managers. An average score above 4.5 by the team in the Gallop Survey indicates that one is doing things right as a manager. One can proactively reverse engineer work styles and achieve high scores. That is the best part of it. By doing so, we can deconstruct stressful performance appraisals into joyful performance “upraisals” resulting in capable high performance teams. In the longer run, all that matters are the success stories of your product, organization, team members and You….
Key point – I do not write or speak anything which I have not experienced personally 🙂
What is the key differentiator between good scrum masters and a great scrum masters?. These days I come across many certified scrum masters who understands the scrum framework inside out and at the same time either fail or do not have the confidence to perform the scrum master well.
Here are some key pointers for becoming great scrum masters…
For a person switching from waterfall, lot of unlearning is required in order to be effective in scrum teams as there is no room for command and control. In the agile world everything thrives around delegation, volunteering and collaboration.
Soon I will write one blog for business owners / product owners 🙂
Break from hectic schedules and travel for sometime is good. It gives us time to recuperate, rethink, re-brand and re-launch. Due to the pandemic, I was forced to work from home and from places near home for almost two years. During this time, what kept me going forward was my new role as Project Management Domain Expert at Wrench Solutions. Their product ‘SmartProject’ is an emerging star or giant killer in construction management.
That was career pivot for me from the tag ‘Corporate trainer’ in I.T , Agile and PMP to the real world core project management that is construction management. Thanks to Wrench and my colleagues at Wrench, especially it’s CEO, Mr. Varghese Daniel, a great colleague and role model, who can wither any storm with confidence. That taught me a lesson or two about the influence of surroundings and people in life. I was fortunate enough to be surrounded by positive people during this difficult times.
When we learn to think and act positively, lot of good things happen to us. Out of the blues, new assignments started coming my way and I am in the middle of a major assignment to transition a group of projects into agile from waterfall for a large bank. That forces me to get back to scrum after a break and I started appreciating the simplicity of scrum like never before. It is so simple and straightforward and there is nothing to tailor in it. Either you do scrum, or do not do it. 🙂
After all what is there in scrum?. Scrum comprises of;
Scrum is as simple as that. To develop great products all we need is a clean and validated set of requirements and a capable, motivated team who respect each other and are willing to follow scrum.
Let us not complicate it unnecessarily.
It was almost like taking a one and half years break from serious work and enjoying life with my best friend Raphael, my grandson. That was the best thing happened during the pandemic. The pandemic forced Raphael and his parents to come back to Kerala from Bangalore and work from here, which gave us amble time to be with him and become more like a kid again. Now it is time for them to go back to Bangalore. Though the Grandpa in me is little bit sad, the professional in me is really excited at the opportunity to dive deep into deep meaningful work again….
I have started making daily to-do lists again, and that is really helping me to regain the much required focus. My quest for 0 to 1s continue as I am really getting fed up with the 1 to Ns. That might give you a hint about the book I enjoy reading now, after a while. ZERO to ONE by Peter Thiel. More about this book after completing the reading. Another book I ordered just now is the Checklist Manifesto. The concept of checklist for everything to do things right goes well with my agile mindset…. more later….
Har thaal means breaking the rhythm. Harthaal is also a unique mode of strike. Today we have harthaal to support the farmers strike in India. Due to the pandemic, the thaal of life is already disrupted and I thought of making the best use of the empty roads and rains….Here I am at the banks of river Periyar having pazham pori (banana fry) and a cup of garam chai after some cycling. Capturing some thaal during har thaal…
It was wonderful to cycle through the empty roads on a rainy harthaal day… Preventing a harthaal is not in my circle of influence, but making the best out of a day is definitely within my circle of influence. Remembering Stephen Covey and his seven habits….:-)
For me, cycling is my way of protesting against environmental pollution, unreasonable fuel price taxes which is more than the production cost, fighting diabetes, depression and ageing. Cycling also shows me the right approach to life itself. It teaches not to rush from cradle to grave very fast, instead progress at a slow and steady pace, taking time to stop on the way to see the sunsets, birds and beaches and to converse with fellow human beings. Destination is only a milestone, what matters the most is the ability to enjoy and sustain the journey….
Happy Daughter’s day darling daughter Rosanna…
Cheer aayi…the arrival of happiness. There are reasons to be happy. There are ways to be happy. If one wants to be happy. At Cherai beach again after a long gap of more than a year. There you become a boy again, born again….praising the marvels of this world with gratitude to the creator of this universe….the omnipotent. It is also about breaking the patterns of life, to explore the unexplored…embracing the new and continuously renewing self…saying bye to the familiar key boards and touch screens to listen to the sounds of nature, immersing oneself into it…..life is beautiful….for those who can kindle the ray of life in self…
Are you really a stranger….Yes, we met for the first time, I do not know your name, and You do not know mine either….but you are familiar to me….at least the expressions in those eyes are familiar to me….blessings to you my dear familiar stranger…..thank you for allowing me to capture your photograph…..
You imitated Christ till your death, fighting for the tribal community of India, who were denied their basic rights by the large corporate houses supported by the Government. To get rid of you, they finally alleged you with links to the prohibited Maoist outfits by planting documents in your computer. All these happened when you were 82 years old and suffering from major heath issues. You never complained. You continued your fight for the poor till your last breath, as a true follower of Jesus Christ. I happened to listen to one of your recent interviews where you said, you do not have any complaints and you are very happy because you fought well and was not ‘complacent like the majority’ in raising the voice for the poor and downtrodden.
We have not met even once in this life, and we will not. Still, the thoughts about you do not subside in me, even after three days of your end of journey on earth. The words ‘complacency like the majority’ hits by conscience very deep. I am disturbed. What am I doing with my life which is worthwhile to be called as a significant life????.
Sitting at the right hand of God, please bless us, and pour your blessings upon us to make us capable of leading significant lives…..
Last week, I got my first Chromebook. HP’s most inexpensive Chrome book. It happened to be the first blue colored computer used by me. The Chrome experience is totally new and refreshing. It definitely helped me to improve my productivity by increasing the availability of the main computer which I use for regular work. These days, Chromebook is mainly used by my partner in fun Raphael, my three year old grandson, for watching youtube. The touchscreen based UI helps him to be self sufficient when it comes to choosing the videos of his liking. Kudos to the UI team. The battery lasts for more than 13 hours in a single charge, that makes it extremely portable. It unleashes the creativity of Raphael and mine…here are two digital paintings (connecting the dots), by us. 🙂
Have ordered a pen, with the hope of improving the paintings more. The first experience with painting is really good. It is a kind of meditation and the process is totally different from photography. Hope to do more in the coming days. Thank you HP and Google, for making this chrome book available at reasonable price with reasonable quality.
Hope you enjoyed our first digital painting experience…
Shashtipoorthi is the 60th birthday in Sanskrit, and today is my turn to celebrate mine. What a reckless rollercoaster ride it has been….! Sometimes it was sheer madness, still protected by the divine forces….like the tolerant and loving father tolerating the immature child’s eccentricities… Overall it has been a wonderful journey so far and hopefully it will continue in a more refined form. On this day, the prominent feeling is gratitude. Gratitude to everyone I came across this life, and especially for those who stood by me during the ups and downs including job losses, health issues, financial issues and other occasions of emotional turbulence, the good times and the bad times.. I love you all, and above all my parents, my wife, daughter, family, good friends and the Almighty Lord, whose Words, when I meditate upon refines me and instills in me a child like heart…which is the biggest treasure I cherish. That helps me to look into the future with hope amidst the turbulence around. Thank you Lord, Thank you family, Thank you friends for this wonderful journey called life..Love you more.
Blogging, Vlogging, Youtuber, Photographer, Word Press, Jira, Training, Founder, product owner, designer, Organization building…, Marketing strategies….training…..evangelist… mentoring…playing and learning with grandson …I do not exactly remember when I learned all these. It all started when I started work 35 years back. Fortunately all these are of great help now, when one work remotely. Busy connecting the dots and creating new dots to connect in the future. The journey continues….what we are doing now is just a dot to be connected with many others. The best is yet to come..let us keep exploring the world of opportunities….
How long will I have to wait for the locked gates to open, so that I can be free again…to play with other kids of my age….that must be in his mind … my best friend and Grandson Raphael…….
How long will I have to wait to hold my camera again to click some photographs again…should i wait till the end of the pandemic……no way….and I stretched my hands to my good old cannon 550 D and the 50mm lens…..with the hope of clicking my spirits up…..
In my shares portfolio, there are some shares from a particular company, which has stagnated slightly below the purchase price. Many times the temptation to sell off these shares and invest in shares with better yield gripped me, still I did not sell them. Even when I was missing good opportunities, just because I invested and waited for so long, I want to sell them either equal to or more than purchase price, and that is a foolish idea.
Then this has taught me to observe other things in life I am unnecessarily clinging to, just because I have invested lot of time and energy. This include a face book group created by me, which has around 10,000 members, a youtube channel with about 1800 subscribers. Just because I have spent lot of time and money in nurturing them from ground zero, even after knowing that I am not enjoying them any more, I am unable to delete them. I have seen many marriages where the couple continue to live in agony till death separate them, because they already lived a few years together. They must either decide to live happily or decide to separate. I can say this confidently because I am living in a country where the happiness index is very low and at the same time the divorce rates are also very low. The sunk cost syndrome can happen with relationships with people, pets, jobs, organizations, hobbies….
The only way out is practicing detached attachment, so it becomes easier to shrug of those interests, which are no more interesting. Instead of doing the ‘to do lists’, people like me, plagued by too many activities will benefit by creating and implementing ‘not to do lists’ periodically.
Are patterns like these hampering our progress?. Is this a common phenomena for every one?, or is this just my problem?.
In this part of the world, we are getting into the fifth month ever since the pandemic was identified as a major threat. To be honest, it was an emotional roller coaster till I came across this sentence from Osho ‘Do not allow your mind to question the good things happening to you, allow it to question only the bad things‘.
Over the years, we are conditioned to believe that great joyful experiences are illusions, or too good to be real, and must be questioned and validated, else they are termed as unreal and unworthy of pursuing. In the process we cease to experience true joy, because the mind cannot comprehend it yet. They are beyond logic, or the logic is not evolved to that level to validate unbound joy and ecstasy.
I have not reached the ecstatic levels yet, and at the same time I can vouch that I am more peaceful and happier than ever, despite the turmoil that is happening around me. Everything started with my attempt to stop thinking in a detached way, after listening to one of Oho’s Youtube videos. Did I succeed?. Not fully and at the same time to a great extent or partially. Most of the time, we are either thinking about the past or of the future, and in the process we loose the present. If we allow this pattern to continue, we will never experience life, and many of us have failed to experience life to it’s fullest because most of the time we are either thinking about the past or of the future, at the cost of the present.
Can anyone stop thinking altogether?. Nobody can stop thinking, the state of non-thinking has to arrive and it will arrive , at the appropriate time. We can only facilitate the arrival of the state of ‘non thinking’ with some foreplay and be patient. One thing is sure, if not total stoppage of thinking, a reduction in thinking happens first.
Where did I start?. I started by just focusing on by breathing. Close your eyes, and just focus mildly on your inhales and exhales. That is the first step to start focusing on the present. Other thoughts will surely creep in. Over days, the distractions will reduce.
The second fun exercise I started is to start dancing. I am unable to remember the days I danced during this life. Now, I have started dancing in my room all alone with my favorite music in the background. Hopefully others will join me in the due course. Then I started mixing both dancing and observing my breath. I start with dancing and music, then witnessing my breath again dancing…and then again witnessing breathing in a detached manner…..and I slip into a very peaceful state…which I want to preserve throughout the day. It is beautiful.
I am still mastering the art of unbound Love, Peace, Joy and Ecstasy :-).
The two things that turned my days ecstatic are learning to witness my breath in a detached way, and dancing to my favorite soft music……
It is easy. Everybody can practice it. I share my unbound joy, peace and happiness to you ecstatically.
During the past one and half years I evolved as a professional blogger from a personal blogger. When I say professional blogger, others started sponsoring my efforts. Though the journey was and continue to be exciting, it had it’s own share of conflicts, both internal and external. As a personal blogger, you are not restrained by anything, when you write. As a professional blogger it is not so. There are multiple stakeholders involved. The one who is sponsoring your efforts and their interests is on one side. On the other hand, it is about delivering tangible value to the reader Vs just airing your views and opinions. Then there is the conflict of the ideal Vs practical.
For example, when we talk about ‘Agile Project Management’, very often I use the term ‘Implementing Agile using Scrum’ which implies a specific start and end, which is fine to the corporate world, where as it is not that fine with the academics and purists (at the bottom of my heart, I belong there). Their view is about improving agility in teams and individuals, which sounds more evangelical. Some go one step further in defining ‘Agility’ as a mindset. While I agree with the idealists point of view, I do not disagree with my own view because for most of the consulting assignments for transitioning teams from waterfall to agile, the first criteria is time frame followed by cost. That is the way the corporate world functions. At a personal level, I am of the view that agile is actually a mindset, it is about getting rid of everything unproductive, and embracing everything that can improve productivity. I even do, a very honest daily retrospective (introspection) before going to bed which helps me to improve myself on a daily basis. Here empathy, or in other words, the ability to see and understand things from others perspective and even my own perspective (in a detached manner) helps me to proceed without contempt.
Empathy, is the ability to understand the feelings of others and respond to them. In other words, it is the ability to get into the shoes of others and understand their perspective. When I moved from a very large MNC organization to a fast growing startup, again the ability to empathize with the organization, helped me to empathize with the people within the organization. In other words, it helped me to understand why some body is behaving in a particular way. So was the case, when I had a lateral entry as a manager into a new team, where there were many aspirants for the same position. Empathy was the rescuer again. The ability to understand things from their perspective, helped me to perform well in the longer run, though I faced problems initially. It is much better and easier than ‘I am right always’ attitude.
Without empathy, real collaboration is almost impossible and less enjoyable. If we learn to root our thoughts and decisions on empathy, we automatically become master collaborators, and great servant leaders.
I am sure that those who worked with me two decades back, would be wondering and laughing about the transformation of a command and control freak. Those are the moments when I realize that I am truly agile, I am constantly getting rid of unproductive ways and embracing new ways. I am more empathetic to others and to me, than I was. Enjoying it.
In planes and trains,
Cars and Buses……
You protect my precious treasures…..
In rain and sun…
You suffer silently when others toss you around …
Still you take care of all my treasures….
My heart beats faster when you are late….
My eyes always searches for you in crowded conveyor belts….
And, when you emerge from a distance….my heart pounds even faster….
When others touch you….I get angry….
You are also aging with me….
The wrinkles on you speaks about it…
And, people tempt me to go for a better, newer one….
And, I do not listen them….
Our long journeys together have bonded us well….
I still remember the day when I lost you while traveling, and our reunion after that….
Thank you very much for being with me throughout my journeys….
In good times and Bad times…….
And sorry for those occasions when I did not take care of you well….
Still you continued to serve me unconditionally….
Me and you alone in this hotel room makes me romantic……creating these lines for you….
I LOVE you…
Like a youngster in Love…..I want to tell the whole world about us.
Today my daughter wanted to buy a travel suitcase. She tried multiple brands in the past and none of them lasted long. I recommended Delsey and we are back home with the brand new delsey.
#brandloyalty #productquality